Mastering how to juggle being a work from home writer and the head of a family is not an easy task. This is something I’ve been doing from years and I still feel like I have a lot to learn. You have to keep in mind that this is not something you are going to wake up one day and just know how to do. This is definitely an area where practice makes perfect. If you are not willing to make mistakes and try again, you should just a brick and mortar job. Working from home and managing a family is not easy. But, it is not impossible either.
Step One: Acquire a Support Network
You need supportive friends and supportive family members. You need people in your life who understand and respect the fact that you work from your home. You need this because if people get mad at you when you tell them you are “working” when you are at home and doing “nothing” in their eyes, it is going to frustrate you and stress you out.
I’m fortunate enough that I can call my mother or my aunt and explain to them that I have a handful of articles due and Ayden is being a handful. They are happy to help watch him for a couple of hours so I can work. They know I have to work sometime to pay the bills just like anyone else. Be prepared to struggle without a support system in place.
Step Two: Getting Your Spouse on Board
I would say convincing your spouse that you are working when you are in the house, sitting in front of them, on the computer is a very difficult thing to do. This is still a problem for me because my husband sometimes has a hard time understand why I need him to do the dishes or change a few diapers so I can work. In his head, he doesn’t understand why I can’t step away from the computer sometimes and just do it.
Don’t be afraid to give your spouse an ultimatum. In my situation, my husband does not have a job. There are a lot of reasons why, but I’d rather not go into them. There are times where I have to be 100 percent honest with him and tell him one way or another I will make the money for a bills but if he wants any money for the month to spend he needs to get up and help me. Otherwise, I will be saving the extra money or spending it on me and our son and he won’t see any of it. This might sound a little childish, but it works.
You have to keep in mind that a supportive network is about more than just having people help you with things. This is a group of people who understand that you have a real job. You really do need that kind of support to be successful. Trust me.