Why Do Women Feel the Need to Do It All?

I read this article today about career woman/artist, Hein Koh.  She posted on Facebook a couple weeks ago, telling the world how she has not only managed to raise twins and have an amazing career and get by on very little sleep and grow as an artist in the process.

I learned to be extremely efficient with my time, prioritize what’s important and let go of the rest, and #multitask like a champ. I learned to function (even if barely) on very little sleep, and out of the chaos, insanity and even torture at times, a flood of new emotions entered into my work, becoming more interesting & layered as a result.

You can read her post here:

hein koh

Full post: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1279386542080543&set=p.1279386542080543&type=3

Now, I’m not saying she’s wrong.  Who am I to judge her choices?

But I do feel that this raises an important question:

Why do women feel the need to do it all?

Why do women feel that they have to be supermom, superwoman, super-anything?

Why do we put that pressure on ourselves? Or is society putting that pressure on us?

Some of us do it out of need.  We have unplanned pregnancies. We have men in our lives that aren’t supportive.  We are going it alone.  I was there at one time.  Both my pregnancies were unplanned during a time when my partner was unemployed.  I didn’t know that there were options for working from home at that time so I worked through my pregnancies, had my babies, and went back to work shortly after (even though we had programs to help moms that stay at home, it wasn’t enough to support us all).

But I made that choice, even though I didn’t make it consciously.  I made the choice to not be adequately protected against unplanned pregnancies (no birth control, even though it is very low cost in Canada, didn’t use condoms). I made the choice to be with a man that wasn’t ready to have kids.  It’s not something I’m proud of.

So, I’m not talking about those kinds of situations.  I’m talking about when we intentionally have children and believe that we have to be perfect moms and have careers that earn lots of money, and keep the perfect house.  And never complain about it.  God forbid.

I know that this topic goes so much deeper than this.  I just had to write out some quick thoughts.  Maybe I’ll expand on this later.

What do you think after reading Hein Koh’s post?

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